The Significance of a Hand-Written, Personalized Letter--Especially During the Holidays

Today, I am writing about an old-school form of communication…the physical letters/cards you write and send in the mail. Many of us send out an annual Christmas/holiday card. It is a tradition; the holidays remind us that another year has past (a good time to reminisce) and create sentimentality (a need to reach out to loved ones and friends).
For me, December is a hectic month (I believe I am not alone.). My workload becomes heavy (which is a good thing) as we close out the calendar, there are countless networking and holiday parties to attend, family events, presents to be purchased and wrapped, food dishes to be made, and countless other things. I thrive during the month. I love the month.
Yet, I made the decision to hold-off on writing my cards. The cards were purchased the previous year. They were unpacked around Thanksgiving. They sat on my desk through the month. As I received cards throughout December, I felt somewhat guilty that mine were not stamped, sealed, and in the mail—not because they were not completed, but that I hoped my family and friends did not believe I had forgotten them.
I am not a fan of the end-of-year form letter. It is a personal preference. I understand that for some, it is practical (a time-saver). For others, it adeptly allows the writer to cover all the comings and goings of their family members. Still yet for others, it serves as a trip down memory lane; a reminder of what has occurred and was accomplished during the year.
I enjoy personalizing each card. I treasure hand-written notes, most likely because we live in a quick-to-the-point text messaging, email, and Twitter world. Thus, I like to take my time.
Why personalize? Well, let’s start with family. Some I am very close to, others that I do not see nearly enough. Some that I share similar experiences/interests with where others (I am a bit ashamed to admit) I do not know enough about. Some who went through a difficult 2009, others that had much success. Then there are friends. Some I have known since I was three years old, others that I am very close to due to our college years. Some that are close city neighbors and friends (who are up-to-date on my day-to-day life), others that live across the country or ocean. Some who share my interests in travel, etc., others who enjoy news about family. Similar to my family members, some had a difficult 2009, others had momentous positive changes. One form letter does not fit all.
For those that I have remained connected to over the years, I believe there is a reason. I like to bring out that connection in the letters, possibly reminisce, and strenghthen the ties. I also don’t want to write a brag letter about my great year, if someone else had a stressful 2009 (one that they would like to see come to an end).
My letter shares my life with the receiver; yet my note is more about them, than about me. I want to reconfirm that I empathize or celebrate the events of their past year. I want to ask about their life. I like to make people laugh or smile from reading my note. I like to extend gratitude to them if they were there during a difficult time for me (or for everyday small help). I want to ensure that the letter is relevant to conversations we recently or last had. In a manner-of-speaking, I am hoping that my letter is a small gift—a token of a dear friendship, an extension of gratitude, a provider of a chuckle or two, and a reminder that no matter how many miles life have placed between us, that I do care about your life.
I am placing my cards in the mailbox today. They are done. I feel great about my decision to hold-off until the New Year. In fact, there may be an added bonus, my letter will not get lost with all the others during that hectic December month.
I have vowed to either send cards around Thanksgiving next year (write them in November) or do the same as I have done this year.
I leave with one more thought. In such a hectic, computerized world, I realize how much more that hand-written note means. An individual takes the time to write it because you are worth it.
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